five main rules, how to ask questions
1. Questions should be tactful!
This means that your questions must relate to the personality of the interlocutor, his social and family status, professional responsibilities and situation.Unfamiliar person should not be asking about his income and religious preferences, people with different sexual orientation - an interest in the details of their sex life, etc.
2. Questions must be sincere!
This rule is known for the film "The Meeting Place Can not Be Changed", where Gleb Zheglov recommended him Sharapova.And indeed, to quickly and easily establish a relationship, you need to show a genuine
interest in the person.If your communication is based solely within the competence of the business - then you should take an interest in the common cause, which you do, and then move on to a more informal relationship.
3. Questions should not be ambiguous!
This rule means that if the issue can be understood wrong, it is likely to be understood and wrong.I think that in our lives we use a little ambiguous questions?Yes, plenty!For example, the question: "What are you doing tonight?" - Can be interpreted as an invitation, and just spend time with a cup of coffee and a hint of sexy.In this case, this question more appropriate to specify: "I'm going tonight to drink a good cup of coffee, part of the company?".
4. In the interview you must alternate between open and closed questions!
Indoor question implies a clearly positive or clearly negative.Open-ended question encourages companion to share your thoughts, memories and express their views.Alternate open and closed questions in an interview.The abundance of open questions makes interlocutor constantly strain the memory and the brain, and the abuse of closed - will cause him the feeling that he is being interrogated.
5. does not show contempt for the other party!
It is, of course, about the hidden neglect.Very often in this case, the question begins with the words: "You do not have to answer if you do not want."Thus, one interviewee hidden hints at the fact that the opinion of the interlocutor it does not matter or issue is not paramount, it can also be interpreted as a lack of respect for the partner (say, once the issue is not important - what you did I ask a?).On the contrary, in every way demonstrates that his opinion is important to you.
enjoyable and meaningful conversations you!